Selling yourself

February 24, 2010
Honest Guy: goodmorning i think ur pretty

Me: thanks

Honest Guy: i wanna noe if we can talk sometime if thats ok with u

I like Honest Guy. He's straight to the point, much like Player Guy, who I'll introduce later. He doesn't try too hard and he knows girls get turned off when guys are too pushy and aggressive. But, perhaps, he doesn't try hard enough, and maybe his chastened approach stems from shyness. If you want to get to know a girl and you want her to want to get to know you, then you've got to give her a reason to want to get to know you.

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Simply telling a girl that you think she's pretty doesn't tell her anything about yourself and what you can offer her. This message is just like if you were to send out a cover letter to a company that you'd like to work for and just put:

Hi. My name is Honest Guy and I really like your company and would like to work for you.

Not gonna get very far with that. Actually, you'll get practically nowhere. Rather, something like this may work better:

Hi. My name is Honest Guy. I've flipped through your profile pictures and I think you're pretty. (This is where you tell a little about yourself (besides the obvious things that I can find out by looking at your profile page) and what you're looking for, but don't be arrogant or demanding. That turns girls, especially me, off. Aim for confident, yet objective.) Hope to hear from you.